Okay crew! We had a pretty serious discussion about how to shape your life over the last few days. Long story short: If you don’t like your life, change it. You have to. It’s the only one you get.
We’ve talked about recognizing you need to change your life, believing you can change, figuring out what you want to do, making a business out of it and facing fears about stepping out of your society-approved comfort zone.
Gulp! A lot of growth here at Fit with Lizzie!
So the million dollar question: How the heck do you find time to do all of that? How do you fit in your hobby and side jobs with your current career (and that career might be as a SAHM) and all of the other obligations in life and not go crazy?
Passion gives you energy to do the things you love to do. Fear of bankruptcy and foreclosure gives you the energy to do the other crap you have to do. You’ll notice passion is a more effective motivator than fear. When you truly love something, you can focus on it 100%. It finds ways to sneak into your consciousness. I do a lot of my class planning in my car. If you pass me on the highway, I’m not suffering from epilepsy. I’m probably working on choreography. Wave hi!
But even if you have all the energy in the world to chase after your passion, you still have to be selective with your time. Queen Chalene tells us we need to know our priorities.
Once you know your priorities, you can edit out time-sucks that aren’t on the list. Very few people have “watching tv” or “playing Farmville” on their list of priorities. Invariably, the people who tell me they don’t have time to workout or read can tell me who made the final cut on American Idol or what Kardashian is doing what attention-whore thing. I’m not bashing tv — we have nights set aside for vegging in front of the tube. Just know that if you’re looking to free up time in your life, start with tv and mindless internet games.
I work pretty much non-stop from when I wake up in the morning to when I go to bed at night. I’m fortunate that I was able to take a part-time gig as a lawyer where I can work from home most days. The rest of the time is spent blogging, putting together various projects, teaching, trying to get that horrible smell out of my sports bras, fitting in a quick workout of my own and communicating with clients via email, Facebook, text and the like. My husband and I usually work through dinner and we often work weekends. He meets friends for breakfast and I see friends for quick lunches or dinners maybe once or twice a month. We have a date night once a week where we have good wine and a fancy meal, but we often end up working those nights too.
My life is 1000% better now, even though I’m overbooked and overextended, than when I worked 40-ish hours a week, had nights and weekends free and made a pretty nice salary. I don’t know what I did with all that free time, but I know it wasn’t as profitably spent as it could have been. What else is more important than designing the life you were meant to lead? A life that fulfills you personally and financially? What are you going to do with those talents you were given?
There’s freedom and joy when you pursue your passion, even when you have less time overall. When you start to take control of your own destiny, it’s an exhilarating feeling. Rather than worrying if you’ll get a bonus or whether the next round of lay-offs will have your head on the chopping block, you know that your efforts today will determine tomorrow’s rewards. You gain control of your life, not the douchebag VP who wants another BMW.
If you’ll permit me another Queen Chalene illustration: This woman does it all. She runs her own company, has a successful marriage and is an amazing mother. All you have to do is see her children interact with her and you see that she knows a thing or two about designing a successful life. And she worked her ass off for it. She got up before her kids and she worked. Her kids got up, she stopped working. Her kids went to bed and she worked some more. Once they were in school, she worked while they were gone and stopped when they came home. Those daily actions eventually added up so that she and her family have a really nice life with the freedom to spend time together.
Chalene is not an anomaly. She read the great books about time management and personal development and she simply put into practice the things that made other people successful. She figured, if they could do it, so could she. I figure, if she can do it, so can we.
What do you think? Convinced?